Making a change in our lives involves many different motivations. Motivation from all across the board, like kids, a health condition, a spouse etc. but when it comes down to it, at the time when you are evolving and working toward your goal, there is one word to describe us all, SELFISH. No matter how much most of try to deny it, being self consumed is apart of our nature. I have found this to be a great motivator and although the connotation may come with a stigma, an egotistic approach can go a long way.
As we work hard and push ourselves to reach the goals we have laid out, there is one common motivator that really keeps us going, the need to look better. I have tried to make other motivators my #1 but it still always comes back to several different questions and statements I tell myself;
- Do you want to look like this your whole life?
- Can I fit into that old shirt that makes me look good?
- I wonder if they notice me?
- I can get any girl if I looked like that.
- I can look like that dude.
- I want that guy to envy me.
- I want my significant other to look at me a little different.
On and on I can go and if at least one of these does not ring true, consider me crazy. Even a forty year old man still wants to be envied for the way he looks by women and men. We all want to be looked at a little longer by opposite sex, we all want someone to be like “damn he’s a big dude” or “wow she has some great arms”. It is flattering and we all could use a little more of that in our lives.
All that said, being selfish is a big motivator. Embrace it, use it as a backup to whatever else motivates you. Sometimes I have to remind myself by asking myself this question;
How bad would it suck to die today?
Take a minute and think about what you would leave behind. Think about everything, it may be morbid but for me dying would SUCK bad.
